One of the most powerful ways to communicate with your cat is by slowly blinking at them. It’s a great way to send reassuring signal to your kitties, telling them that you’re not a threat and showing him or her that you care. I often use this technique to connect with Ted and Dilly.
Cats find direct eye contact threatening and it makes them self-conscious. They have great peripheral vision so tend not to stare at anything directly, unless they are ready to attack. Rival cats will out-stare each other to resolve conflict and maintain territorial distance, so it’s no surprise to discover that a continuous stare can upset cats as it is seen as threatening. This explains why a cat that enters a room full of strangers, all of whom are cats lovers except one, will choose to approach the non-cat lover – the only one who is not staring at him.
When I want to ‘talk to’ Ted or Dilly, I wait until they are sat still and fairly calm and then when they look directly at me, I close my eyes slowly for a second or two and open them again. I usually repeat this two or three times and normally they will blink back at me in the same way.
It’s an amazing feeling and I can almost ‘sense’ the connection between us. I feel as if I can see the look of understanding in their eyes and I feel closer to them as a result.
Try it and see how it works for you – I’d love to hear your stories about how you communicate with your furry friend, comment below, or drop me an email email@example.com send us a tweet @specially4cats or leave a comment on our Facebook page.